I was thinking about this recently in terms of food and medical costs. However it really applies to most things we encounter on a consistent basis for most of our life.
What got me onto the subject was talking about how “expensive” it is to eat healthy. While I can argue you that you can actually eat healthy much less expensively than you can eating unsupportively, lets pretend for a second that you cant. Lets pretend that no matter how I present that argument you still don’t believe me. So lets say you believe it costs extra and that’s all there is to it and you wont do that. So you don’t want to pay the extra now, guess what, you may not want to now, but I promise you that if you go about it that way forever, you will be paying every penny you saved and then some down the road. “Where” you say? Well in medical costs, you eat unsupportively for your entire life your risk of piling up medical debt goes up exponentially. You either pay a little extra now to eat supportively or you pony up everything you spent your life saving later in medical costs.
Think about it in terms of a car, what happens if you keep putting off all the little fixes. “Oh that’s not important I don’t need to fix that right now…or that…or that…” you end up bringing your car in for inspection one year and because you neglected it in a bunch of small ways it now needs 3-4 thousand dollars worth of work to pass inspection. Or worse the car breaks down and becomes un-drivable or the engine blows and now its not just a matter of getting it fixed, it’s a matter of having to shell out for a new car. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that not putting in the work now isn’t going to catch up to you somewhere else down the road. The difference is there is no “New Car” option for your body, you get one, take care of it.
In general, the world values people with what are termed "Hard Skills".
A "hard skill" is a tangible expertise at a particular task or occupation. Writing, math, computer programming; doctors, physicists, engineers. Hard Skills are identified based on an objective evaluation.
A "soft skill" on the other hand, is more subjective, and they are harder to quantify.
Many forward looking companies recognize that while hard skills are important, it's the soft skills that will make more of an impact in the long run, and hire to those skills. We do that here at Get Fit NH. You can fairly easily teach someone to teach someone to squat, but it's not as easy to teach things crucial to our success, like teamwork and time management.
I was reminded recently of the importance of "soft skills" when I received a note from a client challenging me on my communication skills. In my zeal to keep her from being hurt on an exercise, I was very rude in my speech and mannerisms toward her. There was nothing "soft" about the way I treated her, and I deserved to be called out. I apologized, and was very grateful that she demonstrated her superior soft skills of communication and leadership in the situation.
In the context of my profession, the difference between hard skills and soft skills is the difference between being a "trainer" and a "coach".
The first is skilled at program design, movement training, and teaching skills.
The second is an expert at inspiring and motivating others to be the best version of themselves they can be.
One is MUCH harder than the other, and clearly I still have work to do.
So what does that have to do with S3?
It occurred to me that often when we sign up for a challenge like "Sizzlin' Summer Slimdown" we are focused primarily, if not solely, on the "hard skill" aspect.
The nutrition plan, the calorie counts, how much protein we should eat, MyFitnessPal, MyCoach, the weigh-in and Fit3D, planning, shopping and prepping.
All the tangible things we can measure and count.
All valuable skills, and all worth doing.
And while those are important, I would submit in the long run they are not the most important.
Because even the best laid plans get blown up. Life gets in the way. We forget our lunch at home, one of the kids needs an extra ride, we have (another) hard day at work. You get it. Heck, you live it.
All of a sudden we find ourselves getting frustrated with the process, or tired of the fight, and then we find ourselves with the glass of wine in our hand or chomping down a burger and fries on the way home. You know what? Those things are not tragedies. They are part of life. The tragedy is what happens afterwards, when the guilt comes and we spend the next few hours, days or even longer, beating ourselves up about it.
The "hard skills" don't matter one little bit in that situation.
What we need now is:
Once we get past telling ourselves "I am a failure and this will never work for me", we need to employ our recognition, adaptability and problem-solving "soft skills" to help us learn, grow, and get better.
My challenge to you now and in the future is to start to recognize that no matter how excellent the nutrition plan is or isn't, no matter how many pounds you lose or don't lose, and no matter how many days you check "Yes" in MyCoach; your long term success is going to be determined by the ability to recognize that failure is not permanent, but only a step in the journey.
DO the hard skills. Get great at chopping, mincing, dicing, and slicing. Be the best planner, shopper, and preparer you can be. Use all the tools at your disposal and get better at all those things.
And ALSO work on your "soft skills". For THOSE are the ones that will help you make the real difference in living healthy lives:
Mind, soul, and body.
Thanks for letting me be party of the journey.
If you're working at becoming healthier , here are some of the checklist items that you might have omitted:
It's easier than ever to start a nutrition plan but there needs to be a really good reason (and a lot of hard work in play) for you to stick with it. Here's to finding several.
To Your Best Health,
“This is how education works: you don’t sit down with a five year old and show them piles of books, assignments, and papers they are going to have to devour, Finish, and deliver by the time They’re done. The five year old just ‘shows up’ and day by day the work gets done.” -Dan John
I read this quote and it is a great way of categorizing the “trying to do it all at once” idea which often doesn’t have real results. When we looks at the quote above its just another way to realize how much work may have to eventually be done, but that it doesn’t have to be done all at once. Lets fast forward this a few years, lets say for the sake of argument that you are not five, lets say its your first year in college. So you are a freshman you walk into your advisers office and they look at you and say “Good morning, welcome to the university (it is your first day after all so pleasantries are being exchanged)” after which she drops a booklet down on the counter. On the front the booklet says “A four year degree in two semesters” with a picture of a group of smiling college students on the cover playing Frisbee out on the quad. You look at the front thinking “wow they look excited, and I can get my degree in 2 semesters? Sweeeeeeeeeeeeeeet”. Now you open to the first page, as you read you realize this isn’t some expedited curriculum, its four years of material that you are expected to finish in under a year. The first page is all the books you would need to buy over your college career but you need to pay for them all tomorrow since this is only one year, there’s a few thousand dollars right there. On the next page is a list of every assignment you will ever be assigned (let's revise that, on the next 6 pages). Followed by 4 pages of all the papers you will be assigned, then by another 3 pages of finals you have to take and senior research projects and papers you have to write. Rounding out with 4 pages about what you have to do for graduation and oh by the way, the day after you graduate you begin a career in your field for the rest of your life. All while finding a way to squeeze out 100+ hours of internship. How many people are succeeding on that system? Now let's say that somehow you do finish in a year. Let's say after burning four different candles at three ends for a year, you graduate. Do you think that the brain can really take in that much information in that short of a time period and be able to sort it and apply it rationally? Heck no.
Now apply that to your health. If you have bad joints, or you need to lose excess body fat, or you want to run a marathon, there is not “cheat code”. It is achieved by gradually learning how to change parts of your lifestyle that are not conducive to your goal, and amplifying the ones that are. If you came in tomorrow and Coach Dean gave you every piece of information available to him or gave you 500 steps to be healthy the rest of your life. How successful do you think you would be? I know I wouldn’t be successful, that’s way too much information to apply at once. Health and habits are something that must be learned and applied over time. If you are 80 lbs overweight and you try to implement 25 habits or steps the first day, you probably aren't going to be successful, it's about building a habit, then once its ingrained, building another. Continually learning more and applying more over time. So don’t expect everything to click at once, don’t expect to be able to apply 15 life changes tomorrow. Just come in, exercise, work hard, and make those small incremental changes. That’s the blueprint for real long lasting success and health, not trying to lose 60lbs in a week.
Make it Happen!
A highly talked about topic in my years of being a cross country runner in high school and college was to not listen to the evil goblin. If you are asking yourself who the evil goblin is, don’t worry I asked the same thing at first. The evil goblin is the tiny voice in your head who tells you that you all the negative things in your head. He was the one sitting on my shoulder telling me to just give up, the race was too long, people were faster than me. It’s not just a running thing either, the evil goblin likes to be with all of us, whispering about how training is to hard or you are not ready to start doing it yet. It’s saying forget your diet and have that piece of cake or sip of wine. The evil goblin is the one that is there trying to hold you back from your amazing potential.
So, what do we do about the evil goblin? We tell him to SHUT UP! It’s not an easy task that can be done overnight, but getting that annoying goblin to be quiet is possible. Its possible by telling yourself why you started in the first place, why this is so important to you, and most of all telling him YOU ARE BETTER THEN HIM!
I ask all of you the next time he pops up and tries to bring any negativity or doubt into what you are doing take the first step of getting him off your shoulder and out of your ear. With practice, commitment, and self-appreciation you will have that goblin running away and will see how much potential you truly have.
Make it Happen!
A great tip from a two year old
As I sit here to write this blog I am reflecting after a LONG couple of days with a very strong minded two year old. Two year olds have a lot of great qualities (a lot of obnoxious ones too!) I think when we grow up, learn manners, and all that adulting stuff we forfeit some important qualities…let me explain one that comes to mind..
Perseverance. There is NO ONE committed to persevere like a two year old. When someone tells them NO you can’t do that they rarely accept that as an answer. And if they get put in time-out then guess what? They get up and they try it again. I can’t answer for how long that goes on before they learn some discipline, because I am not there in my parenting career just yet My point is, there is a way to reach your goals and it isn’t going to be easy and you might even be told no you can’t do that or even hit a speed bump along the way, but regardless of how hard it is, you must persevere (you can probably hold the tissy fit, though. That’s not a good look!)
If you have vision for yourself then it is up to you to make that a reality. Your coaches are here to help lay that foundation. Never let anyone tell you that you CAN’T and don’t tell yourself you WON’T. Believe. Persevere and hold the temper tantrums!
Make it happen
Often times when I attend conferences, I wish there was a chance for me to get closer to those speaking. I know they have information and knowledge to share but I lack the opportunity to take advantage of it.
While I don't want to be known for tooting my own horn, I am pretty good at what I do. I am one of the nutrition coaches for Get Fit NH and the The Grateful Plate. I love to talk food and how we can use food to help you get healthier. I know that if you get healthier, you automagically get happier and the world needs more happy. Food is one way we can change the health of ourselves, our family, our workplace, our community, our state, and beyond.
I want you to help me create that change, by starting with you. On March 10, 17, and 24th, I'll be at Live Juice on Main St. in Concord to talk with you about that first step. The first step in changing the world is to change you through food.
You bring the topic, the questions, the notebook ready to take notes and we'll get you started. You can come for one Saturday or all of them. The choice is yours. The cost is free. (unless of course you buy something at Live Juice) I'll be there starting at 9am and we'll be done promptly at 10am.
Help me change the world!
See you at Live Juice from 9-10am on March 10, 17 and 24th.
This is a topic on my mind. I struggle with it and I am seeing many new mom’s and dad’s struggle with it too. If you are a new parent or parent to be or thinking about being a parent some day or know someone who is a new parent then read away!
I am a mom of 2. I am a wife. I work full time. I work weird hours. I have a husband who works full time. He also works weird hours. We are still a family and yes, it is HARD! Most days I see my husband for approximately 45 minutes. That is no joke. When he comes home from work we high five and I go to work. We almost never have family time during the week. Weekends are for us. I almost never work weekends, because of this. Most weekdays I feel guilty to leave my kids for over an hour to go train, especially if I just work a full day and I know when I come home they will probably be in bed or ready for bed. Mom guilt kicks in more than I am proud of. It is a fantastic week if I get in three training sessions. Life is busy.
I am luckier than most new mom’s, because I reminded daily why it is so important to be consistent in training. So many of the people I work with day in and day out have kids that are grown and are now starting a training program, because they finally have time for themselves. Many of them have not taken care of themselves for years, because they were so busy taking care of everyone else. Many of them have regrets of not finding the time when they were younger. I don’t want regrets. I am lucky to be reminded of this. Other new parents are not reminded of this day in and day out.
The purpose of this blog is to encourage you. Don’t get hung up on training 4 days a week. If you have little kids that is HARD especially if you work full time and don’t see them all day. Dedicate yourself to at least 2 days and any other day you make is a bonus. Cut yourself some slack and be proud of yourself for getting in. I have yet to meet someone who leaves the gym wishing they did not go.
They say this time goes by in the blink of an eye. Do yourself a favor and keep your eyes open. Don’t wake up and be 20 years older and 20+ pounds overweight not knowing where to begin. We are here for you.
Mom guilt (dad guilt) it’s totally a thing, but don’t be a victim of the risks that come with being an out of shape mom or dad!
Keep making it happen!
Have you ever wanted to sit down with one of your coaches and pick their brain? Do you have questions you've wondered about? Or maybe I am just the coolest and you want to hang out with me?
Here is your chance to chill out on a Saturday morning and chat with me. I will be at Live Juice on Main Street Concord from 9-10am. It'll be a relaxed atmosphere we can hang out and talk. If you train in Epsom you KNOW I can talk. There won't be any of that awkward silence. 🙂
Here's the deal, I'm in Concord waiting for Drew as he trains in Athlete Academy. (if you have a teen they can train while you get some time chilling with others from Get Fit NH). I'll get to Live Juice as the doors swing open at 9am. We can chat while we order our coffee or a Funky Monkey or whatever else Live Juice can whip up. Then we can chat more in their cafe' atmosphere. I'll have to leave at 10 so don't wait until 9:47 to arrive.
This will start on March 3rd. This to be a trial run, if this works well for many of you, show up. If not we'll find a different venue and time. I'll be there March 3, 10, 17, and 24th, and I'd love it if you'd join me!
See you March 3rd at Live Juice!
The spotlight is shining bright on Michelle today! I asked her to share her story after she came in one day totally psyched about trying on a pair of jeans that had been sitting in the back of her closet. She hadn’t worn them in a while and was nervous that they may be snug, but when she tried them on they not only zipped but they were LOOSE! She was ecstatic and rightfully so. It has been our pleasure to watch Michelle’s confidence unfold. Top that with results and she is a happy camper. I am SO glad you walked through our doors, Michelle. We are the lucky ones! Here is what she has to say!
What did you seek out Get Fit NH?
My 51st birthday was looming and I pretty much failed at "fabulous and 50" and I knew I had to take action. I had belonged to a class that met x2 a week at 6:00 a.m.. Due to my work schedule, I found myself missing it more often than not. I had a membership to Planet Fitness but I couldn't get motivated to go. I had seen ads for Get Fit previously and had inquired. I received a call from Coach Nancy but never followed up. (See a pattern here?!) But I remained on the contact list and late in August, I received an advertisement for a 28 Day Metabolic Reboot for $99. Of course I was convinced it would a bait and switch situation where after the 28 days there would be an exorbitant rate increase but I thought I would try. Coach Nancy promptly called and set me up with a Coach. Coach Adam did my orientation and got me setup with my MyZone monitor and I started my 28 days in September. I really like the fitness test that was done prior to starting. This was done to ensure I was working at my capability level and would avoid injury.
What did you learn after your first 2 weeks?
I was definitely a bit shy and apprehensive the first few classes but the Coaches made me feel welcome. By the end of the second week, I was definitely hooked and having a blast! And I was already feeling better! Energy levels were improving and I was sleeping better. And I recruited a friend to join as well!
What results have you seen so far?
Well, this is definitely the best part! Besides having more energy and sleeping better, I am stronger and I am down a jean size! I feel so much better about myself and can't wait to see the continued results in 2018!
What keeps you coming back?
Besides the physical changes, it's the Coaches! They are awesome! During class, they always ensure my form is correct and they are always providing encouragement! They know everyone by name and they make the toughest workouts fun. And, I am challenging myself by making sure I go x4 a week. Life does get in the way at times and that's not always possible. Then I receive a reach out from Coach Meagan making sure all is OK and my motivation soars! I'll be honest, I need the push. Lars, Adam and Brian are awesome too - let's face it - you need to laugh a little to get through it sometimes! It's also the other members. It's a non-judgemental environment and I love the way others encourage one another. GetFit has definitely been a "fit" for me!
Keep up the hard work, Michelle!